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ETHOS Series: Interpersonal Skills: The Hardest Skill-Building You’ll Ever Do - Shared screen with speaker view
Kate Seely, NCG, she/her
23:28
"I am feeling..."
Kate Seely, NCG, she/her
25:47
"I am..."
Kate Seely, NCG, she/her
26:19
https://www.menti.com/tfd689g18t
Bernadette Glenn
27:13
conflicted
Pamela Gray Payton
27:45
saddened
DF
28:09
fatigues
Lynne Seeley
28:09
I am searching
DF
28:14
fatigued
DF
28:30
stressed
K. Green (SCG) - she, her, Queen
28:47
grateful yet concerned
Vanessas Stevens
35:19
Hello! I had to miss the first session. Is there a recording available? Thanks in advance!
Ingrid Embree | she | GlobalGiving
35:36
A trust-based philanthropy meeting last year was my last professional meeting before lockdown. So excellent. <3
Kate Seely, NCG, she/her
36:24
Yes, Vanessa! We have that. It will be included in the follow up email to this session.
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
39:01
This series is a collaboration of Philanthropy California, Trust-Based Philanthropy Project, and GEO. We will convene monthly and will share recordings on the Trust-Based Philanthropy Project website :)
Kate Seely, NCG, she/her
39:36
Take 45 seconds to free write, what would your relationships with your grantees look like if you were to give yourself permission to pause?
Kate Seely, NCG, she/her
40:33
https://www.menti.com/tfd689g18t
Julie Hinkson
42:21
transparent
Susan Beaudry
43:21
can you share the word clouds with us after the call?
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
44:42
good idea, susan - we will include the word clouds in our follow up
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
50:10
More about Angell Foundation: https://angellfoundation.org/
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
50:50
About Compton Foundation: https://www.comptonfoundation.org/
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
51:17
The Whitman Institute: www.thewhitmaninstitute.org
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
53:14
6 Practices of Trust-Based Philanthropy: 1) Multi-year unrestricted funding, 2) Do the homework, 3) Simplify and streamline paperwork, 4) Be transparent and responsive, 5) Solicit and Act on Feedback, 6) Offer support beyond the check. More here: https://trustbasedphilanthropy.org/principles-1
Julie Boudreau
53:33
Plus it’s so much more rewarding to connect than to process documents. It begets more energy.
Kate Seely, NCG, she/her
56:04
Cognitive Trust versus Affective Trust
Susan Beaudry
57:52
What are your thoughts about balancing the ability to create spaciousness in your calendar with the challenge practitioners have with being overscheduled/limits on spaciousness?
Amy Jester, she/her; Humboldt Area Foundation
57:54
When is it that we are cultivating trust in our organization vs trust between the people that are working together?
Kate Seely, NCG, she/her
58:01
Writing Prompt:“What do I do that builds trust with my grantee partners?”
Betsy Fairbanks
59:10
We’re looking at a dramatic growth in assets and giving. Struggling with centering relationships with more grants (yes, they will be bigger, but there will also be far more). What of tension between hiring adequate staff to allow for valuable relationships with each vs. making more funds available. Regranting an option for some of the add’l money. What else to suggest with this tension?
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
01:00:22
Great questions, Susan, Amy, and Betsy. We’ll bring those into the discussion.
Heather Wooten
01:00:36
I was thinking about regranting too -- it doesn't eliminate power dynamics but the upside seems like moving funding decisions closer to people who are working on problems firsthand and expanding the number of people who are holding philanthropic relationships.
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
01:01:46
Amy, in response to your question about when you are building trust within your org and when it’s external, we would say that it’s all continuous. Trust-building internally builds stronger orgs, and becomes a model for trust-building externally. We will build upon the internal trust-building piece in our next session, but I know the speakers will address this today as well.
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
01:02:58
Susan and Betsy, those are great practical questions about balancing stretched capacity and schedules with the depth that is required for relationship-building. We will prompt our speakers to address this shortly. Thank you
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
01:04:59
Angel’s examples are such great examples of humility and transparency and self-awareness.
K. Green (SCG) - she, her, Queen
01:05:19
Love that example, Angel!
Iara Peng, she/her, JustFund
01:08:45
“I’m not so precious” - Angel (I love this!)
Julie Boudreau
01:08:48
I so relate to Angel’s point about making the big idea smaller. I would love to consider some role play opportunities in another workshop to allow experimentation and practice of new ways of responding that aren’t so restricted by our role.
Julie Boudreau
01:09:53
This is so great and so sorry I have to jump off. Overlapping trainings today. ): I look forward to the follow-up materials. Love to you all!
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
01:11:07
For those that have to hop off early, please fill out our survey before you go! Takes less than 5 minutes: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/D69Y2XB
Anupama Joshi
01:11:11
Sorry I need to hop off too. Thank you, this was so insightful.
Iara Peng, she/her, JustFund
01:11:29
Re: regranting, one solution I’m seeing more of from different foundations - some are building advisory councils of activists (activist-led) or activists and funders (cross-class) and allocating X funds so they can make the decisions about where money goes, but then the foundation makes the grants. This can easy the administrative, financial and regulatory requirements an organization has to build if they do regranting.
Amy Jester, she/her; Humboldt Area Foundation
01:12:03
YES!
Betsy Fairbanks
01:12:46
We used to fund only with advisory committees making decisions and look forward to reinstating those. But - doing it well took a lot of time also!
Carlos Medina (he/him/his) Catalyst
01:18:15
Thank you for highlighting the value of nourishing our spirits.
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
01:18:58
Working on internal relationship-building can help leaders model this type of ethos among staff.
Margarita Luna
01:19:09
Completely agree Ellen! We must do our own work to be aware of how we want to show up.
Jocelyn Jones Arnold
01:19:51
Treat them with respect as fellow human beings. Money is power, so I strive to provide more like brainstorm meetings, TA, learning opps and connections to other funders, grantees & community stakeholders to help grow their networks & support their communities. Also stressing the fact that not all philanthropic entities were necessarily created out of the goodness of the donors hearts, but for tax and inheritance purposes. As the ones doing the work, nonprofits & those they serve should treated like valued partners & empowered use their voices and lived experiences to help transform traditional philanthropy.
Beth Tigay
01:19:58
I miss being able to take grant partners out to lunch to break bread and catch up.
Janice Tufte
01:20:35
So important sharing food together so many cultures practice this
Gerlie Collado
01:23:00
Link to Brene Brown’s checklist - https://daretolead.brenebrown.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/DaringFeedback-EngagedFeedbackChecklist.pdf
Jim Herr
01:23:36
Theory U--https://www.ottoscharmer.com/theoryu
Kate Seely, NCG, she/her
01:24:16
Thanks Jim. For clarity's sake, generative listening is a part of Theory U. So much good stuff in Theory U!
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
01:24:44
1) What thoughts about your own practice of relationship building? and 2) What gets in the way of building trust-based relationships?
Jim Herr
01:25:06
Theory U was used to create the updated LA County Blueprint for Arts Education
Margarita Luna
01:26:16
Coaching training has transformed my ability to actively listen, connect and develop authentic relationships with my colleagues and grantees.
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
01:26:50
Please don’t forget to fill out our survey before you go. We want to continue to improve these sessions to serve your needs: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/D69Y2XB
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
01:31:15
I love Angel’s point about intentional relationship building as a long dating process.
Hilda Vega-Hispanics in Philanthropy-she/her/ella
01:33:18
Thank you, everyone!
Betsy Fairbanks
01:34:09
Angel, you co-created this culture. Im interested how you bring in new staff who haven’t had that collective experience.
gabriela alcalde
01:35:52
I would love to have a full session devoted to this topic of Board/staff alignment on trust-based philanthropy culture and practices.
Michaelle Smith
01:36:08
Yes!
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
01:36:21
Yes gabriela! We will weave this into session #3 for sure!
Margarita Luna
01:37:05
I agree, particularly those whose jobs are centered in accountability and compliance and have less interaction with grantees.
Kate Seely, NCG, she/her
01:37:55
From Angel - "Our process is ongoing and every new staff member is engaged in the process with a full retreats and other meetings to acclimate them into our culture."
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
01:38:39
We will continue to build upon these themes in session #3 about internal trust-building: https://trustbasedphilanthropy.org/events/2021/02/23/ethos-series-building-trust-begins-at-home
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
01:39:25
Final plug for our 3-minute survey! Please tell us how we can build upon this session for next time: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/D69Y2XB
Chris Murchison
01:40:14
To Ellen’s comment about conflict, I wonder how comfortable orgs are at being honest about what they are struggling with, challenged by, etc. Is there a need in foundations to always “look good”? I hear about a lot of perfectionism in the field....
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
01:40:38
It’s that long dating process that Angel talked about!
Martha Richards
01:41:00
thank you so much for this session
Rosario Torres
01:41:08
Thank you--great session!
Katie Harkin
01:41:15
thank you, this was a great session!
gabriela alcalde
01:41:17
thank you. Look forward to next session.
Christine Chow (she/her), SCAN Health Plan
01:41:18
Great information and reflections. Thank you!
Amy Jester, she/her; Humboldt Area Foundation
01:41:19
Thank you for your leadership in the field
Margarita Luna
01:41:20
thank you all!
Dara Johnson
01:41:22
Thank you! This was a wonderful session.
Beth Tigay
01:41:23
Thank you…really needed this today!!
Shaady Salehi (she/her)
01:41:24
https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/D69Y2XB
Lisa Downey
01:41:25
Wonderful and practical advice! Many thanks to all of you.
Jim Herr
01:41:27
Thank you!
Jenn Dickinson
01:41:27
Thank you all!
Shruti Jayaraman
01:41:32
Thank you
LINA PAREDES
01:41:33
Thank you vry much!
Darrell Musick
01:41:36
Thank you all for this inciteful and meaningful session.
Gerlie Collado
01:41:38
Thank you all!
Elizabeth Camarena
01:41:44
Thank you!
Natalie Olmsted
01:41:45
Thank you everyone! Excellent and needed